Sometimes we need to pretend; sometimes, we need to smile while there’s a storm going on inside us, and we find it difficult to express it with the fear of being judged. In this generation of fake smiles, it’s hard to know what’s going on inside somebody. Many lauds about depression, many suggest to reach out, check on your fellow people. But the question is, if somebody is not feeling free to disclose about their mental state, how will you know? Why do we need to hide things? Why we find it difficult to reach out to others? And the ultimate answer is ‘Us!’ We are the only ones who have made an environment where we are spreading knowledge about how to be strong, saying, “It’s your own fight, and you only have to lead it.” But we always forget that one becomes strong from being weak, so why can’t we tell “It’s OK to be weak, it’s OK to cry, and it’s OK to let it out.” In the competition of being strong, we forget to adore the weak, and then the result is “I need to be strong, I need to smile to show I’m so POSITIVE,” whereas we are completely broken from inside instead of healing, we all are pretending. In a world where we have so many friends to say-from school, college, virtual platforms but do we have that one friend to whom we can literally reach out and say, “I’m not OK!” Many say I am always there to help you out, but how many of us would understand somebody’s personal problems? Nobody would come to you so easily and say, “See, I’m suffering through this and this problem.” The truth is you can’t understand it in the first place. But can’t we make the people in our life feel that we are always with them, we will be there for them, if they ever need a shoulder to lean on, ours will always be there for them. To your close ones, make them feel that you are always with them and how important they are to you. Nothing will change, but they will know at least someone is there. In this world of fake smiles, it needs the courage to open up and tell, “I am a weak person who’s learning to be strong, not pretending!”
Sometimes a point comes in everybody’s life that from inside you break down. You lose that happiness to live each moment of your life, you feel the change in yourself, and you find it hard to hide your tears from others. You don’t feel the mood to do what you did once with huge interest, and you feel worthless. But that’s not the end of your life, that’s the test of time, and you have to be the winner of it. Come out and fight. Believe that you are more powerful than the situation. Some people will change. They don’t care about which phase you are going through. People will change so, do you? But you are not weak. Forgive others and move on, sing, dance, and eat whatever you want. Share your problems with the ones who really care about you and are there to listen but don’t sit idle and end up blaming yourself. From your pain others will not be affected, you are destroying yourself. Just remember you are better than this and have a long way to go. Prove yourself and prove to others! In our country, almost 90per cent of the population is suffering from depression. You cannot predict, but from inside you can also be affected by depression. I don’t know why we take it as an extreme case, why we take it as a serious matter, yes!! It can be serious if we don’t try to get rid of it.
Sometimes it becomes a major case that we need a counselor, but all the time it’s not that easy to share it with others because, as I said, we don’t understand it and make it a big issue that time we only have to become our supporters because if we don’t generate that will power within ourselves that ”Yes, I have to get out of this anyhow” we can’t cure ourselves. Sometimes our closed ones become our strength, become our pillars, which cures us in a faster way. Do whatever you like to do but understand it before it takes you under its control. It’s not a disease that should be diagnosed it’s a mental condition that it may happen to anyone; it can be you or me. There are conditions you will feel like the most worthless person. Many will judge my words as useless but the ones who have felt it can understand it properly, and I am one of them. I went to those hard phases. Just remember that it’s not a serious matter it may happen to anyone due to pressure of studies, pressure from family, or the surrounding situations that may affect you. Love yourself that nobody could hurt you that’s the best solution for everything.
Written by – Sukanya Chanda