Building a network is one of the most salient quality needed in today’s globalized era. To do so, one must create a positive impression and build a rapport with the people around. However, not everyone succeeds in creating that long-lasting impression.
Here are 30 principles, in brief, given by Dale Carnegie in his best-selling book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People:
- Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Arouse in the other person an eager want
Ways to make people like you:
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
How to win people to your way of thinking:
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong.’
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately.
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other person feel that the idea is his hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person’s point of view.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throwdown a challenge.
Be a Leader: How to change people without giving offence or arousing resentment:
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be ‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.’
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
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