Girls: Best Friends or Enemies? Does ‘Sis Code’ Exist?
Have you ever heard of fair probability? It defines the outcome as two equal chances. Like when you toss a coin, there are 50-50 chances of getting a head or a tail.
Similar goes for girls, you can’t really figure out if that girl is your best friend or enemy. There are equal chances of any girl being your best friend or enemy. Strange right?
We can’t preconceive any opinion based on what happened in the past. Technically speaking, either you can blame circumstances or the girl. Both the ways, you will get affected the most.
If you have been close to a girl, labelled her as your ‘Best Friend’ and then suddenly all goes wrong. Boom! You may not know the reason at that point of time. You would start making assumptions and, in all ways, defend your friend’s actions in your mind.
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Confused people often end up choosing the wrong path
Why would my best friend do this to me? Maybe, she wanted to protect me. Maybe, there’s some personal reason. Maybe, she’s right. What if I’m not considering her point of view? Maybe, I’m thinking a lot on this issue.
There’s definitely some miscommunication! All these thoughts scatter up in your mind. Somewhere you are juggling between finding out what’s right and what’s wrong.
Obviously, your best friend in her defence would give you ample amount of reasons depending upon the situation. If she leaks all your information to some random person, what will be your first reaction? Is she a bitch, why would she do that? If she starts dating your guy, then maybe she doesn’t want you to be happy.
A misunderstanding ruin the beauty of a pure relationship
Sometimes, maybe the smallest issue will make you feel that your friend has ditched you. For instance, if someone mocks you & your best friend enjoys it, then you would start thinking her as your biggest enemy.
After all, she is supposed to take your side, right? She needs to bash out every person who mocks you, that’s the first rule of friendship.
But what if, the intensity of the joke is not to that extent where your girl best friend feels that I should take stand. What if she normalizes everything? She is your best friend but not an astrologer who can predict everything?
All these moments in life makes us feel that all this while the person whom you considered your best friend was a traitor in disguise. You give up on friendship, best friend psychology seems all bullshit to you.
Heartbroken more than your relationship, depressed that no ice-cream can take away all your sorrows, deprived from love, care, you feel that everything is over. You are on your own, you can’t trust anyone. You don’t restrict yourself and start spreading negative vibes all over.
Girls being bad ‘bitches’ all the time
Girls are often told to back bitch about each other more than boys! In fact, people think jealousy is a common trait between girls whereas the fact states that it’s basic human tendency to get jealous.
Bromance or Bro code makes it obvious that girls can’t be best friends or soul sisters. Do you feel the same way? Why can’t girls have the same vibe as boys? Maybe, there are girls out there who are actually very close to each other but don’t flex about it in front of everyone. Yes, they do exist!
Have you ever met someone who initially you hated and then suddenly she becomes your best friend? Have you ever judged someone just because she is wearing tacky clothes or she is fat, has dark complexion, etc.
Without even talking to someone, how easily we girls judge each other? Maybe the vibe doesn’t match but what happens later. How come the person you never thought you would talk you becomes your life saviour??
The game is all about trust. Every person who comes in your life teaches you a lesson. It’s not healthy to carry your past with you. You would prove “every girl is another girls’ worst enemy” phrase true. Deep inside you must be eagerly waiting for your best friend to come back or maybe someone who can understand you, take care of you.
The three of them are all smiles when they are together
Girl, you worst enemy, who may have troubled you a lot, may someday come to you with a clean heart. That’s maybe how reverse psychology works. When you don’t want anyone in your life, you get surrounded with unnecessary attention but when you really want someone, everything starts falling apart. People take the exit door and vanish out from your life.
A girl can be both, you must decide to stay with her or leave her. Even if you are emotionally attached to your friend and she keeps on repeating the same mistakes, leave her.
Otherwise, it will get toxic and you will go depressed. There are times when your worst enemy crosses a certain line of decency, you may respond to her actions.
Being a girl, this wasn’t expected from you? Learn some etiquettes and manners if you can. Grow up kiddo, stop being immature? Are these your comebacks? If yes, then this doesn’t even work on your enemy.
You may not know but a girl may pretend to like you a lot on your face and it would be completely opposite when you are not present.
You got to share every moment with your girlfriends
No, conclusion as such can be made but one thing is for sure that, a girl can be your best friend or your worst enemy. It all depends on the circumstances. You cannot be with someone forever.
All you can do is forget the worst part and live with the best part. Come on, it’s been a stereotype that girls can’t be actual friends.
Start appreciating each other. You can’t peek inside someone’s mind. All you can do is start exploring and surround yourself with girls who motivate you do something better. After all, every person is unique, every girl may/ may not be your best friend. But she is a girl, she won’t forget her roots nor the comfort one gets while talking to the same sex.
The question ends with a positive and a diplomatic answer that’s maybe/ maybe not. Complicated but practical!!
By Mansi Yadav .